By "Sense of Communion" is meant essentially the feeling of
ease, comfort and
at-homeness with other people. It implies all that is comprised
by the time-honoured
term "empathy" in its positive aspects, without any taint of
stress, anxiety or tension
communicated from one person to another. It is inter-personal in
its reference, and
reflects the joy and satisfaction of "shared-experience", thus
making "development"
possible.
Many of the words and phrases which reflect the core-values of
society and of culture
are in reality based upon true communion, words like "family",
"home", "hearth", for
example. The French word "foyer" is artistic in this regard, and
therefore
untranslatable. It means more than a mere sense of belonging,
since "belonging" may be
experienced as "being accepted" -- for reasons of social
obligation only, paternalism
or custom. It means more than "being acceptable" -- for reasons
that imply
acceptability to an established group, with the further
implication that while we might
not have met the standards for that group, somehow or other we
have. And so on.
It is more than communication in the sense that without
communion, true communication
is impossible. "Communication" has come to mean someone telling
(ordering, affirming)
something to another, who accepts the telling. Communication
thus interpreted is a
one-way process, usually from the "prestige" or authoritarian
person (or "rebel") to
the "subservient".
Communion is a felt partnership, despite all social symbols of
prestige, such as age,
professional or other status, or "authority". It is a TWO-WAY,
MUTUAL process; rather
than an "order", an "instruction", a "reprimand", or a
"shrug-of-the-shoulder
approval." In communion there is true fellowship; and in
fellowship there is value.
Communion is reflected in, and basic to, the "art of
conversation". "Conversation" is
a much under-rated, ignored, or misinterpreted basic aspect of
being human. It
includes empathic silence, the experience of mutuality in the
appreciation of the
sunset or any work of art.
Communion is a term perhaps made most explicit as the central
basis of our Judaeistic
heritage. Being primordially human, its meaning has fundamental
place in all
"cultures"; but our Jewish forefathers were convinced that
whatever Jehovah's ultimate
purpose was, knowable or otherwise, the shared experiences of
"communion" could not be
something outside of that purpose.
Evidence from the thoughtful study of infants shows the
importance of communion (as
between mother and child, for example) from the earliest moments
after birth, and prior
to as well as accompanying the growth or existence of
self-consciousness. Communion is
made possible and necessary by the birth-event wherein two
individuals (mother and
child) still enjoy and appreciate a oneness despite difference.
Every action
(experience), as far as the infant is concerned, is a mutual
(non-differentiated)
action. The infant is fed, tendered, "cared-for", in a warm (or
otherwise) social
situation. Where communion is broken -- as by the impatience or
anxiety of the mother,
for example, the infant senses this fact. (This is where Harry
Stack Sullivan
(Interpersonal Theory of Psychiatry) places the meaning of
"empathy" , namely in
anxiety -- an anxious mother communicates anxiety to the infant.)
And so the infant
"warms to" or shares the experience of communion, or is
threatened by those events,
incidents and circumstances that challenge or threaten it.
Personally, I regard this
as one of the most sensitively artistic facts of human nature, of
the Being that is
Human.
The principle of communion is basic, without reference to any
age, racial or other
differential.
Think about the degree, now, of an individual's sensitivity to
communion, and of the
degree to which any social situation (such as your work
arrangements), takes this
important aspect of society into consideration.
In terms of the development of human beings, according to their
own needs as persons, I
would put this first-stated need as first. Without a sensitivity
to communion, the
human being is not.
Various members of your entourage will show differing degrees of
interest in communion.
You must expect this. An honest interest in fostering
Communion, as first requisite
of decent progressive human relationships, is basic to any
organization of people,
whether it be family, school, community, factory or office; in
any society.